How Do I Tell My Parents I’m Pregnant?

Conversations like, “I flunked out of school” or “I totaled the car” are hard enough. But when you have to tell your parents you are unexpectedly pregnant, it can be frightening. It feels very lonely.

However, there are ways to tell them that make it easier for everyone. We’ll help you figure out how. Book a no-cost appointment and discuss your situation with one of our caring team members. 

You Can Do This

There’s no perfect way to tell your parents about your pregnancy. But here are a few tips that should help you break the news. 

Learn More About Your Pregnancy First

A late period and a positive pregnancy test aren’t the only information you need. Find out if your pregnancy is developing normally or if you have miscarried. 

Experts estimate that 26% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage. You may not have any immediate symptoms, and your pregnancy test can still be positive days or weeks after you miscarry. 

Plus, you need to know how far along you are. How do you get this information? With ultrasound. We provide no-cost, confidential ultrasounds after you take another pregnancy test at A New Generation. 

Research Your Options

You have three options for your unexpected pregnancy: abortion, making an adoption plan, or parenting. Learn as much as possible about each one and share with them what you are thinking. 

At A New Generation, we can give you information on all three. Although we do not perform or refer for abortion, we provide factual information regarding abortion procedures, side effects, and potential risks. 

If you want to learn more about the adoption process, we can discuss the different adoption plans and how you have the opportunity to select the adoptive parents who will raise your child. We cannot place your child for adoption, but we can provide referrals to reputable adoption coordinators. 

Parenting is also an option. Once the initial surprise disappears, you might find that your parents are interested in helping you raise your child. We provide the parenting assistance you need.

Plan What You Want to Say

You’ve probably rehearsed it over and over in your head, but it never hurts to consider how you will begin the discussion. You might as well get right to the point. Here are some ideas:

• “I love you both and am sorry to disappoint you, but I’m pregnant.”
  
• “I have something very important to tell you, but I know you will be upset with me.”
  
• “I just took a pregnancy test, and it is positive.”
  
• “There’s just no easy way to say this…I’m pregnant.”

Tell Mom and Dad In Person, if Possible

Your safety is most important, and if telling your parents that you’re pregnant in person could cause you harm, don’t do it. However, if it is at all possible, tell them in a face-to-face conversation. 

Take a friend or your partner with you to share the news. Although it is hard, they will see your concern and know you are struggling with it, too.

You Are Not Alone

The team at A New Generation is here for you. Talk with us, and we’ll help you devise a plan for telling your parents or anyone else. We never want you to feel alone.