How to Tell Your Partner and Family You Are Pregnant?

An unexpected pregnancy is quite a shock. We imagine you’re nervous, in a bit of denial, and a little scared. We get it. An unexpected pregnancy is a big deal, and so is telling those closest to you. Take it one step at a time. Here are a few suggestions:

Step One: Confirm Your Pregnancy

Believe it or not, a late period and a positive pregnancy test result may not be enough to tell if you are actually pregnant. It sounds weird, but there is a possibility your test result isn’t correct. 

Experts estimate up to 26% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage. Because it takes your body time to return to pre-pregnancy hormone levels, it’s entirely possible to get a positive pregnancy test result after a miscarriage.

You Need an Ultrasound

An ultrasound exam determines three essential things about your pregnancy:

1. If your pregnancy is growing or if you have had a miscarriage
2. If your pregnancy is located correctly in your uterus
3. How far along you are 

A New Generation provides a free limited obstetrical ultrasound if you get a positive result from one of our pregnancy tests. 

Step Two: Put Together a Plan

Knowing your various options for your pregnancy not only helps you decide what to do but it makes it easier to tell people. You have three options: have an abortion, make an adoption plan, or choose to parent.

The decision is yours and only yours. No one can tell you or force you to make a choice you don’t want to make. Get the facts about each option before deciding. 

For instance, are you familiar with the various abortion procedures and potential physical and mental health risks? If not, you need to schedule a pregnancy options consultation with one of our client advocates. 

Our consultations are entirely confidential and provided in a respectful, judgment-free environment. We just present the facts.

Step Three: Determine the Time and Place

You want to ensure you and your partner or family have time to talk. No one should be rushing out the door or dealing with other issues. You also want to choose the best location. 

If you are concerned you will get an angry response, be sure you have someone with you and consider talking in a public location. If your relationship is abusive, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline before sharing the news.

Give your partner and family members time to absorb the information. After all, it took you some time for the news to sink in. Don’t respond to their initial reactions. It may not be how they eventually feel.

Have everyone put down their phones. Here are some ideas for starting the conversation:

• “I have news that may upset you, but I want you to know…”
  
• “You will be disappointed by what I have to tell you…”
  
• “I’ve been struggling to tell you this, but I am pregnant.”

How A New Generation Can Help You

In addition to free pregnancy tests and an ultrasound exam, A New Generation provides other free services. We encourage you to schedule an appointment to discuss your situation with a team member. 

Here, you are seen, heard, and valued. We can confirm your pregnancy, review your options, and discuss talking to your partner or parents. Don’t go it alone. Let us help you.